What if my child won’t cooperate for their photo session?
Parents often stress over the idea that their child might not cooperate during photo sessions. Typically, cooperation is associated with calm and agreeable behavior.
But have you ever considered that such behavior might not result in the best photographs?
Take a moment to consider. When you think of someone being calm and agreeable, what face pops into your mind? Likely, it's a neutral or bored expression, devoid of that vibrant spark. And for the children who want to ‘be good’ perhaps it's a forced "sit and smile" look, conforming to perceived expectations in the moment. And let's admit it—these aren't exactly the heartwarming looks you’re hoping for.
So, if calm and agreeable behavior isn't the secret to great pictures, then what is? Surprisingly, those concerns about potential uncooperative "misbehavior" are exactly what can result in fantastic photographs.
Believe it or not, I genuinely want your kids to dance a bit on the edge of "misbehavior" during their photo session.
Now, what exactly do I mean by "misbehavior"?
Well, it's not the word I’d typically use, but it's a term I often hear from parents when describing behavior during a photo session that they fear might make the shoot less successful. This includes kids making faces instead of delivering picture-perfect smiles, running around instead of sitting still, and displaying a range of turbulent moods—some of which you may not want immortalized forever!
Nevertheless, it's crucial to acknowledge that all these behaviors are not only completely normal but, surprisingly, they can result in charming photographs that genuinely capture their authentic personalities.
Because here's a photography secret: kids, unlike adults, can effortlessly look adorable while displaying a much wider range of moods and expressions.
Laughing like crazy? Awww
Sticking out their tongue? Cute!
Running away in a bit of disobedience? Still so adorable.
Even their face scrunched up in tears might make you go "aww, I just want to give you a big hug" (and still cute).
Amidst the collection of images from a photoshoot—regardless of the antics they bring on the day—you'll inevitably discover some timelessly beautiful images that you had envisioned from the start. These moments unfold when they are at ease and simply embracing their authentic selves.
Preparing to relax (I promise it’s not as stressful as that sounds)
How can we alleviate the pressure from the photoshoot, allowing your kids' natural, sparkling selves to shine, regardless of the mood they bring on the day? It boils down to preparation BEFORE the photoshoot. Now, before you picture a stressed-out project manager, hear me out. Think of it as proactively addressing potential challenges so that come photoshoot day, it's smooth sailing—everything's handled!
This groundwork happens over the phone. In our conversations, I delve into understanding your kids better, anticipating what to expect from them, and formulating a plan to seamlessly work with them for the best shots possible. This may involve:
Figuring out the best time of day to make sure the kids are well rested and alert
Making sure there’s going to be enough time to get them fed, and watered, and ready to go!
Painting a vivid picture of how the day may unfold, highlighting breaks between shots for the kids to recalibrate. Brace yourself for a potentially extended session—coffee reserves recommended!
Techniques to get the best shots
Who may need to be present as helpers on the day of the photoshoot
Letting go of the judgment
One crucial aspect of preparation is getting yourself into the mindset of going with the flow. The extent to which your kids give that perfect authentic expression depends heavily on how relaxed they are—and that, in turn, hinges on your own level of relaxation.
Let's be honest, parents—resisting the urge to rein in 'bad behavior' is no stroll in the park. It can feel embarrassing when you sense that your child is acting out, especially in a more public setting. BUT, here's a thought to ponder, especially for those who believe their child leans towards the 'naughtier' end of the spectrum.
Believe it or not, many of those behaviors you might find a tad embarrassing actually convey admirable qualities that will serve your child well in adulthood.
The ability to say no, ask for what they want, and be bold and proud of who they are—consider this: how often as adults do we wish we had more of these qualities at times?!
They are qualities to be proud of, and that’s exactly how I view them!
Naughty kids: The uncredited heroes of a photoshoot
It's more than just simply okay for your kids to let their naughtier sides shine during a photo session – I genuinely love it, and it actually adds so much helpfulness to the photoshoot. The truth is, the mischievous kids often turn out to be some of the best and most enjoyable subjects to photograph. This holds true not only during their individual photo sessions but also in group photographs and even when they're not directly in the frame but present when others are getting their photos taken.
First and foremost, these spirited kids tend to be a bit more daring and less reserved, making it easier to capture those natural and spontaneous shots brimming with character.
Equally important however, I consider them to be my unofficial photography assistants because, interestingly, these lively kids often inspire everyone else on the photo shoot to let loose. It can take more time than expected for people to become comfortable with not only someone they don't know well but also with a camera in their face – especially when dealing with more reserved children.
The influence that the mischievous kid has on everyone else is remarkable. They show everyone that having your photo taken doesn't have to be a serious, fraught affair. Instead, it can be a lighthearted moment, while offering everyone a welcome distraction from the perceived seriousness of the occasion and allowing everyone to be present in the moment.
To be honest, many of my standout shots, showcasing spontaneous connections between people or capturing genuine, radiant smiles and laughter, have emerged in response to the playful antics of my mischievous assistant, often hidden from the camera's view!
A successful photoshoot is easier than you may be imagining
Now, if you're still with me and thinking, "Hold on, my child isn't just a bit rowdy, they're genuinely naughty," well, that might be a concern in a typical photoshoot scenario aiming for numerous shots for a family album. But guess what? That's not our goal here.
Even if you believe your child is the naughtiest on the planet, remember this: while we might take many photographs, we don't actually need many. We just need ONE stellar shot to transform into a piece of art.
Just ONE good photo— that's it!
Even in the case of a photoshoot with multiple people, there's no need to fret about one person 'spoiling the shot.' With painting, we have ample flexibility to seamlessly blend the best individual shots of each person, creating the final image without any hint of it looking 'photoshopped' or unnatural.
So, if you’re feeling worried about your child ‘misbehaving’ during their photo session, take that as a great sign – they have amazing potential to create truly exceptional pictures!